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Relationships Need Self Love Too

Relationships Need Self Love Too appeared first on Relationships Reality and was authored by Sarah Adelle and Sophia Elise
It is wonderful that you and your partner love each other so much, but if either (or both) of you are lacking in the self-love department, problems are going to pop up. As the wise and wonderful Rupaul Charles says “If you can’t love yourself how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else?”
It’s true. In any relationship, be it romantic, friendship, family, even co-workers, self-love is important if you want to have positive, healthy relationships. When you love yourself, you don’t mind being alone with yourself. Of course you may want someone in your life, but you don’t feel as though you need someone in your life to be happy. When you love yourself you are happy alone, even if you feel you would be happier sharing your life with someone else.
Relationships Need Self Love Too
When you do not love yourself, you are miserable being alone and feel you need some..

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Do You Doubt Their Feelings for You?

Do You Doubt Their Feelings for You? appeared first on Relationships Reality and was authored by Sarah Adelle and Sophia Elise
Quite often in relationships we question at times if the person we are in love with has the same feelings towards us that we have towards them. Sometimes things can get so bad in relationships we begin to have doubts that the person we love feels the same way about us at all. We find ourselves thinking that the things they say and the things we do prove that they don’t have real feelings for us. Because we would never treat someone we love that way we can assume they must not love us.
The problem with a theory like that is one simple fact: People in love do not always treat one another in a loving way.
In relationships, especially ones that have been going for a long time, people wind up showing the ones they love the worst sides of themselves. The reason for this is simple. We count on the fact that those who love us, will love us warts and all. We think we..

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Does Your Ex Contact You Only When They Need You?

Does Your Ex Contact You Only When They Need You? appeared first on Relationships Reality and was authored by Sarah Adelle and Sophia Elise
Does your ex contact you only when they need you? You may or may not be over your breakup and wonder what the right move is when they make contact.
First and foremost, be honest with yourself. Before you try to decipher their agenda and the real reason they are contacting you, be sure of what your real agenda is. Be truthful about your ex as well. Are they contacting you to see how you are doing, or is it only when they are having a problem and either need your help or a shoulder to cry on? Before you create a fantasy in your head that they are using this contact as a way to get back together with you, focus on reality.
If a friend of yours only made contact with you when they needed you, you wouldn’t romanticize that. You would get pissed off and feel as though they are using you, wouldn’t you? Same thing goes for your ex. They gave up the righ..

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Has Your Ex Really Changed?

Has Your Ex Really Changed? appeared first on Relationships Reality and was authored by Sarah Adelle and Sophia Elise
How can you tell if your ex has really changed? He or she may tell you that they have changed. As a matter of fact, they may tell you thousands of times just how much they have changed. You may want to believe them, but you shouldn’t, not right away at least. If you want to believe your ex has really changed you need to consider a few things first. The behaviors, attitude and actions that you wanted them to change were things they could have changed a long time ago. Unless you broke up with them the second you spotted those things, you more than likely gave them enough time to make those changes.
But they didn’t, did they? You probably told them over a thousand times exactly what you wanted them to change and why. Did they listen? No. They may have promised over and over, but broke those same promises over and over. They may have defended themselves and told you they ..

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Relationship Neglect

Relationship Neglect appeared first on Relationships Reality and was authored by Sarah Adelle and Sophia Elise

Relationship neglect is common in adult relationships. Since neglect is doing nothing, most people feel if they are doing nothing, that is better than doing something wrong. Neglect can destroy even the best of relationships over time.

A couple could start out making a sacrifice for one of their careers. They agree that right now one partner has to put a lot of time into their career and they will spend less time together. But how long can this go on before the couple grows apart? How long can the relationship suffer from neglect before it one or both partners are lonely?

Very often the partner who is focusing on their career gets used to the relationship being a low priority and never fixes the imbalance. It becomes the way of life and how their relationship rolls. Well that kind of neglect cannot continue indefinitely or the relationship is headed for a breakup. Partners ..

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Love Doesn’t Make Bad Relationships, Insecurities Do

Love Doesn’t Make Bad Relationships, Insecurities Do appeared first on Relationships Reality and was authored by Sarah Adelle and Sophia Elise

Love doesn’t make bad relationships, insecurities do. You may not have started out insecure in your relationship, but more often than not that is the reason your relationship has turned into a complete mess. Stop using love as an excuse. Loving someone else is no excuse for letting them treat you badly, and allowing someone to treat you badly.

Love starts with you. You have to love yourself first in order to create a loving relationship with someone else. It hurts when someone you feel love towards treats you horribly. It is time you give your love to someone else instead of continuing to pour it on someone who only uses it against you. At a certain point what you are chasing isn’t really love. You are chasing someone who doesn’t love you and trying to change their feelings for you. You can blame it on your love for them that won’t let you lea..

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Is the One You Love Misleading You?

Is the One You Love Misleading You? appeared first on Relationships Reality and was authored by Sarah Adelle and Sophia Elise

Has the one you love been misleading you? Have they led you to believe something was true only for you to find out the shocking truth and feel devastated and betrayed? You are going to feel as though the rug was pulled out from under you. The love story you built up together has now been hit by an earthquake.

Did they lead you to believe they were over their ex and would never get back together with them? Did they mislead you into thinking they had more money than they did, or more education than they do? Have they been misleading you by making you think they were single, or fully divorced? Did they make you think they were only living with someone in a platonic way? Had you been lead to believe that you were the only person they were dating, or sleeping with?

No one wants to find out that what they believed to be true is false. If this happened to you, mor..

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Does He Have Your Back?

Does He Have Your Back? appeared first on Relationships Reality and was authored by Sarah Adelle and Sophia Elise

Does he have your back? When you need back up is he there or does he leave you alone blowing in the wind? When someone has your back, not only do they back you up, their loyalty is with you when they know you are right. They do not let you fight your battles alone, and they take your side when needed. You should be able to depend on them when you need support, and rarely have to ask for it. They are more than willing to offer up what you need.

If your partner is not willing to support you and back you up, it could be because of their own fears. For instance, a man (or woman, but for this article, we are going to use male pronouns) could be listening to you and his Mother having a verbal altercation. Even though he hears every word, and clearly knows his Mother is disrespecting you and shouldn’t be picking this fight with you, he does nothing. He is either afraid of what h..

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Are You Too Passive in Your Relationship?

Are You Too Passive in Your Relationship? appeared first on Relationships Reality and was authored by Sarah Adelle and Sophia Elise

Are you too passive in your relationship? Many people wind up being too passive in their relationships for several reasons. One reason is because they are afraid to speak up for them selves, and another because they do not like what they feel is confrontation. Some people are too passive because they choose to be the peacemaker. Regardless of the reason, if you are too passive in your relationship you are not going to wind up happy with the relationship you are creating. Many people do not realize they are being too passive in their relationships so we created a list of signs to help you recognize if you are too passive with your romantic partner?

Signs of Being Too Passive
1. You no longer do the things that were important or fun for you. If you have given up, for instance, going to the gym because your partner discourages you going or you chose to in o..

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Top 10 Relationship Myths

Top 10 Relationship Myths appeared first on Relationships Reality and was authored by Sarah Adelle and Sophia Elise

There are many relationship myths that can cause people to have unrealistic views of relationships. These can lead to unrealistic expectations as well. We have complied a list of many of the top relationship myths to help end the confusion.

1. Everyone, at some point, will be willing to settle down when they are ready and meet the right person. This is simply false. Not everyone will. It is not just a matter of waiting someone out until they do. Some people will never settle down.

2. Living together leads to marriage. In the past that was more common, but nowadays? No. Living together does not mean at some point your relationship will lead to marriage. Especially if you moved in together way too quickly.

3. Fighting or disagreeing is not a part of a healthy relationship. That is false. There is nothing wrong with an occasional argument or disagreement of opinion or be..

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How Much Proof Do You Need?

How Much Proof Do You Need? appeared first on Relationships Reality and was authored by Sarah Adelle and Sophia Elise

How much proof do you need when it comes to the one you love? Why do so many people ignore the truth about the person they love and remain in denial? The truth about the person you love is based on facts, not feelings.

Your feelings are what create excuses for the one you love to get away with whatever it is they are doing or saying. Your creative narrative about them pretty much ignores the proof so that you can justify either not ending the relationship or not changing it. The proof is right there, no need to hide it. The only reason to hide it is that you don’t want other people to know the truth about your relationship and how bad it really is.

Isn’t that proof right there that there is something dysfunctional going on? I am not saying you have to immediately end your relationship this second (although some of you should). I am saying you need to deal with the tr..

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Setting Boundaries in Relationships

Setting Boundaries in Relationships appeared first on Relationships Reality and was authored by Sarah Adelle and Sophia Elise

Setting boundaries in relationships is a great way to have a healthy relationship. Many people feel setting boundaries in relationships is not necessary. They believe that if someone loves them they should know what their expectations are and what their boundaries are. Wrong. Your partner is not a mind reader, so you both need to be clear about your expectations of the relationship and each other.

It is important to be as specific as possible, so don’t be afraid to express yourself freely. When you and the one you love give yourselves the freedom to express yourselves you build better communication. This also leaves little room for misunderstandings or miscommunication. Without boundaries in a relationship it is not possible for the relationship to be healthy because there is no respect. Each person in the relationship has the responsibility of letting the oth..

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